Lately I have been thinking about what I really want in my life. I have been gradually putting my energy into the things that bring me inner peace and joy. Sometimes this doesn’t go exactly as planned. For example, my children are my biggest source of joy. They are grown and have their own lives. I am fortunate that they do spend time with me, but obviously not the amount that I would like.

 With that said, I have been working on the relationships that are important to me. I had to really go deep and figure out which relationships needed to make my list: my children, my siblings, and my dearest friends. I don’t want to shut the door and say, “This is it; I have reached my limit.” I will always welcome new relationships into my life. The thing is I want to make sure I am living in the present with the relationships I have today. These people deserve me to be present, to let them know they matter to me, and that they are important to me.

I don’t know about anyone else, but sometimes I am so consumed in my own life that I must remember to make time for others. I need to pick up the phone and call or send a text. I also love to send cards. There is something so fun to me about getting mail, so I like to share that feeling with others. A walk to the mailbox can be pretty sad if there is nothing to get excited about when you get there. I know a package can be exciting at times, but it is just stuff. Someone who sends a card, a kind text, or a phone call just for you can go a long way to making you feel good at that moment in time.

I have lost my grandparents, parents, and two siblings. I want to celebrate with the loved ones that remain and remember to welcome new experiences into my life. I also need to remember that there are times I also like too just be. I love having people around, but sometimes I like being alone too. I find great solace in going for a walk or sitting outside on my balcony. I also enjoy going for a walk with others or stopping to talk to people that come into my path. As I get older, what I value has evolved. I live what I believe to be a comfortable life with things that do make my life comfortable. With that said, my relationships bring me the most joy and are the most treasured.